Ah, our twenties! It’s what we are told, is one of the most magical times of our lives. You’re making your way through life doing this whole adulting thing while making your own footprint in the world. But, we all know we fall off the path plenty of times – and that’s totes okay, so relax.
In fact, there are a few things that are more than likely to happen to you and you most likely will try to beat yourself up over it. But don’t. This is all part of life and the feeling is universal. So before you dwell on some BS, check out things we all face – and need to learn to move on from.
A major relationship will end: There’s a chance this might not happen to everyone, but if not you, then someone close in your life will go through it and you’ll have to deal with helping them. Relationships are tough in your twenties and that is fact. They’re even tougher when they fail and leaves you confused. But remember, if it was meant to be, it would be. Wheether you’re the one ending it or whether your heart was crushed, it happened and life keeps going on. After a break up, you have more time! Which means, more “you” time. Focus on a dream of yours, travel, just do you! Down the road, you’ll see how amazing this time was and thankful for the break up.
You will lose a close friend: As we grow, our friendships do, too. And sometimes, they grow apart. If you have to force it, just leave it. Friendships, ponytails, relationships – just let it go. It sucks when there is drama involved, but there is nothing worse than a toxic friendship. Some people come into your life for a reason and are temporary – maybe we didn’t see it happening, but it happens. Value your friendships that are growing stronger and remember always – you can’t control other people, but you can control how you react.
You will get stuck in a job / major you don’t like: This is a time where we are learning what we like and don’t like. If you get yourself stuck in a rut with your job or major, find a way to change it. Find your strengths and passions and find a way to involve that into your career. If it’s impacting your life and you’re taking home the stress – change it or get the f out. Nothing is going to change if you don’t change it – so don’t be a whiny victim when the choice is yours.
You will compare yourself: You will see people getting married, having kids, making more money than you, making less money than you. Have compassion for all this and just because you aren’t doing what someone else isn’t doing doesn’t make it wrong. You are you and thats dope af. Just know you are exactly where you should be and try to not judge others, on top of comparing yourself to anyone else.
You will get criticism: This sounds scary, but it is the best thing that will happen to you. Whether it’s from a boss, friend or parent – sometimes we all need to be called out. Go into it with an open mind and really listen to what they are saying. Don’t get defensive and try your best to not get heated over it – this is to help you – not hurt you. So chill out and know it is only going to benefit you.